Accepting a change in your body is difficult regardless of the reason. I’ve always struggled with my weight, I guess being the ‘right side of chubby’ would put into words how I generally feel day-to-day. Over the last year I’ve come to accept my body shape and my skin, and I’ve tried hard to eat well and exercise in a bid to be at my best physically and mentally without dedicating all of my spare time and energy to it.
But life lately has been different. After a two-year rollercoaster ride also known as IVF, we are lucky enough to have been successful. It’s a miracle – really – and though I might write more about this later, I’m keeping things lighthearted for the moment by way of a style post.
For the past four months my body has been changing in a way I’ve never experienced before, but I’m slowly becoming more comfortable with my ever-expanding belly (not particularly easy when your waist, aside from your wrists, is – or was – your neatest feature). I’m trying to figure out what works best on my new shape, but I’m still learning. This £12 dress by Boohoo felt fitting for date night at Malmaison last week, although due to its clingy nature I was pleased to have my new Mama Spanx at the ready. Not glamorous, but if Kim Kardashian West isn’t ashamed to show off her Spanx, then why should we be?
I figured a little black dress is always a good shout, however you feel about your body. Do you agree? This one shows a bit more cleavage than I’m used to, but when your boobs are growing faster than you can say “Where’s Bravissimo?”, anything other than a scoop or v-neck simply won’t do. Monoboob is never good.
Having been living in the same black elasticated waist jeans since June, it’s now becoming necessary to try other things as my bump grows. Yesterday I wore an old black body-con dress by H&M (again, £12) and I felt good. I started to feel proud of the roundness. I also bought some maternity jeans from M&S and they feel good too, more normal, like myself. However, I can’t find good black maternity jeans, can anyone help?
Having taken 33 years to figure out what works on me, it feels a bit like I’m back at the beginning, trying to secure a new but temporary wardrobe that fits my new body but also my personal style, as cheaply as possible. It’s not easy! I’d really, really love to hear from women who have had the troublesome experience of maternity wear – how did you dress for your bump? Leave a comment below, find me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, or send me a Snap (username is daydreamer.net).
In time, I think I will share a bit more about my experience of IVF and pregnancy with you. For now, I’m simply hoping for some style tips! Meantime, let’s be grateful for what we have and what we are given, and remember how precious life is for each and every one of us.
I’m Wearing: LBD, Boohoo; Mama Spanx, Spanx; sunglasses, Quay Australia; watch, Accurist; clutch, Gina; shoes, Office.